UHNW and HNW Women: Escaping Blandness For Character Coldness
UHNW and HNW Women
Escaping blandness for character coldness...
when loveless environments become the norm over time and you keep falling into these relationship traps time after time. Why are you still comfortable in dealing with the impacts of character coldness within your life on your day to day professional, personal and social journey?
You are a product of a loveless family environment. Little warmth. Little tenderness. A childhood built upon practicalities. No time for dreams. Now you are a High Net Worth woman and you have traversed real affection and false affection as you climbed the ladder from poverty to riches. At this stage in your life you have experienced….tasted….held….what you constitute as real love. Then lost it. Lost it as you made the journey to this destination of wealth, excellence and luxury. Now there is someone new in your life. This person is as a mirror that you hold up to yourself. You are inextricably connected to this person. You cannot let her/him go. All you can say is “Don’t ask me why!”
You want, need, desire this person to run to you. To need, want and desire you. This is one of your escape mechanisms. To be the centre of their world as they seem to be for you. Yet this person is cold. It is a coldness that you understand. That you have felt. That you feel as though you can save the other from. A character of coldness. You want her/him to come to you. You want her/him to run to you for everything. You want her/him to utilise your help, guidance and support with whatever it is that s/he is searching for. Searching to become. It is a dangerous emotional situation, yet the risk is something that you tell yourself that you can deal with. You understand a character coldness, so therefore you tell yourself that you can resolve it. After all, you were once there. You were, for blocks of time, behaving in similar ways and emotionally hurting someone else with your own character coldness.
Yet, as an affluent woman. A High Net Worth woman. An Ultra High Net Worth woman. After heated conversations, you say “Fuck this! Don’t I fucking exist for you!” This escalates in emotional upheaval and blackmail. Things that should not be said, are said. Yet as an affluent woman what you possess in material goods with your new temperament of kindness is still not enough to tame this character coldness. Your temperament of kindness and affection is becoming fragile. You want this particular relationship to stand the test of time. You have made many mistakes in the past. The journey to where you are now has been paid twice over through those mistakes. You had to forsake much on the journey to becoming an Ultra High Net Worth Individual. Now all that you want to do is give. Give. Give. Give. Share this lifestyle that you have attained with someone particular. Particular to you. You wholly believe that this type of escape is what you need. That you are wholly drawn to character coldness from this particular person in your life.
You are at a next stage in your life and you must have, want, need, desire to share this process with someone particular. You have travelled so far to escape your past behaviours and its clutches on your actions and your words. Now you find yourself inextricably linked to someone who inhabits a character coldness and tests your sanity, kindness and affection in this environment of extreme wealth that you have created. What for? What are you receiving from this relationship? Are you still that child yearning for love? Affection? Tenderness? All this and more from this person who has character coldness. Or are you looking to be a saviour for a lost soul? Why is it that you cannot break free from this character coldness? Why do you feel connected in such a way that you must live your luxury lifestyle with this person by your side? What are you learning from the relationship that is important to your well-being? To your state of mind.
Running from the bondage or shackles of your mind? Or running towards a mindset freedom?
You tell yourself how fortunate and contented you are in your luxury. That it suits you. That you worked incredibly hard for it (Yes, you did. You certainly did.) That you will fight to maintain it (Yes you will. You will defend yourself to maintain as much as possible. Poverty does not suit you.) That you look at yourself with different eyes (Yes you do. There are days that you love being you; the real true you. Then there are days when you beat yourself up over remnants of the past that cannot be scrubbed from your memory; they act as hauntings within your mind.) That you comprehend yourself differently in order for some sort of sanity.
The one thing that you understand is that you have to be careful, as fate may turn against you and determine that you have to journey the losing streak. Fate has a helping hand if you hand it your walking away shoes. So be sure that you can take the risk of living with a person who is hell bent on character coldness. Especially if this triggers a dormant character coldness within you, that you have been able to manage and subdue effectively as you rose to affluency. This need for escaping blandness and turning towards character coldness has teeth to snap back at you and engulf you.
So, what do you now think of your decision in trying to escape blandness and become a saviour to someone who has character coldness?
How are you enabling YOUR upper hand in escaping towards a destination of freedom in your life, as you begin to feel the levels of stress and anxiety forming because of someone with character coldness impacting upon you day after day?
